This page contains first safety information for those considering leaving and important information on
how to safely view these pages.
Has your partner ever?
Does your partner ever?
The first step in breaking a violent pattern in a relationship is to tell someone: your physician, minister, friend, a counselor, or call HARRIET'S HOUSE at (334) 289-8988. Or call the statewide hotline at 1-800-650-6522. At first you may find it hard to talk about the abuse, but many victims of abuse feel a great sense of releif once they have confided in someone. Feelings of shame are common at this point, but remember that no one deserves to be abused. violent behavior is the responsibility of the one who is violent...YOU DO NOT CAUSE THE VIOLENCE.
HAVE A SAFETY PLAN WHEN YOU LEAVE. SEPERATION VIOLENCE PLACES VICTIMS AT A 75% GREATER RISK OF INJURY.
Plan ahead. If you are considering escaping a violent relationship, here are some steps you might want to follow:
1. Determine a safe place you can go. You can arrange to stay with family friends or neighbors. If their homes are not safe because the batterer knows where they live, then call HARRIET'S HOUSE.
2. If possible, pack a bag containing extra clothing for you and your children, any medications you need, an extra set of house and car keys, important papers such as birth certificates, proof of income, social security cards, driver's and marriage licenses, medical and insurance records, extra cash, check book or savings account book, title to your car and rent receipts. Store these things in a safe place, with someone you trust, in order to be sure they are accessible when you decide to leave, and also so that the abuser does not find them.
3. If you are attacked, call the police as soon as possible. While the police are there, make arrangements to go somewhere safe.
4. Many injuries require medical treatment. Even if you think that your injuries are minor, you may be hurt more than you realize. Have your private physician or an emergency room physician treat and document your injuries.
5. If you are not ready to leave, there is counseling available for you and your children. Call HARRIET'S HOUSE for information on support groups, safety planning, crime victims compensation, protection orders, and other services.
The "H" graphic on the right is the escape bar. It will promptly escape any page on our site, including the home page.
If you are living in a manipulative, verbally abusive, or violent relationship,
we recommend that you DO NOT view these pages from your home. View these pages from outside
your home. if at home, choose a safe time to view these pages or lock the doors.
PLEASE READ THE FOLLOWING SAFETY INFORMATION about viewing these pages safely.
1. To the Right of every page on our site is the same large yellow "H" from the home page. This also contains the words "click here to leave this page".
2. FAMILIARIZE YOURSELF WITH THE LOCATION OF THE "H" graphic - the escape bar.
3. WHEN YOU CLICK ON THIS GRAPHIC YOUR BROWSER WILL IMMEDIATELY TAKE YOU OFF THE HARRIET'S HOUSE PAGE AND TO YOUR DEFAULT HOME PAGE.
| If you bookmark this or any other site about domestic violence,
your abuser can find out that you have been getting information on domestic
violence. If you can, clear all cache/history files from your web browser.
You may want to access this site from somewhere other than home.
See instructions below for eliminating traces to browsing the internet for
domestic violence web pages.
|Please remember to follow the instructions below to erase all evidence of your visit to these pages as soon as it's safe to do so.|
Instructions for Internet Explorer
To delete temporary internet files, cookies and pages listed in your History:
Instructions for Netscape
To delete pages listed in your History:
To empty your cache:
|Each time you access websites, "cookies"
can be created. Cookies are cryptic bookmarks that a Web site can place on your
computer to acknowledge your prior visit, authenticate your access or let you
continue on through a site from where you last left off. They can leave a
trail of evidence of where you have been on the web. If you visit a website on
domestic violence and a cookie is created as a result of that visit, your abuser
can trace your trail and discover where you've been.
|There's no simple mechanism for deleting
Cookies in Netscape.
At the same time though, it's not very easy to locate the cookies that are placed on your computer when using Netscape. If you want to delete the cookies in Netscape, you have to open "Windows Explorer" and browse to the "Netscape" folder which is usually in your "Program" folder on your "C" drive. In the "Netscape" folder is a folder called "Users". Open "Users" and then the "default" folder contained within. In the "default" folder there's a file called "cookies.txt". You can delete that file without harming your computer but all your cookies will be removed and some websites that you visit frequently may not recognize you when you return. If you double click the file name, it will open in Notepad and you can edit out the cookies related to domestic violence websites you've visited despite the fact that it says you can't edit the file.
Here is a sample of what the file looks like and if editing, a sample section that you would delete is highlighted.